The Write Along With D.G. Blog

The Remembering Site makes it easy to write your story, but you'll probably have some thoughts you'd like to share while working on it. I do: thoughts about writing, about life, and what catches my eye, my head, my heart throughout the day. I'm writing my story on the Site, also. You can read it at the “Featured Biographies” link at www.TheRememberingSite.org. Think of me as your writing partner. Let's write together!

Wednesday, May 31, 2006

Tin Roof

I feel like Old Grandpa Jones, smokin' his corn cob pipe, talkin' from his rocker, because true summer has come to Ohio, and the pleasures of the past are the pleasures of the present. I live in a 1950's house. There is an ironing board that comes down from the wall in the kitchen and a big, yellow stove. Everything is the way it was, and now my screens are back in the windows of my back porch, swapped out for the cold weather glass.

I have an overhang off this porch, crumbling trellises with a ripply, galvanized tin roof. This makes it dark, and dark on the porch, so Beau the handy friend is going to replace three sections of it with translucent, ripply white plastic. He'll paint the gray walls of the porch white , too.

It's time to lighten up!

Tonight there was a rainstorm. A perfect, beautiful Midwest rainstorm. And I sat on the porch like every Grandpa Jones in Ohio has done summer after summer after rain after rain after storm; smelling it, feeling it on my face and in my brainstem, listening to the ancient/constant sound of rain on my old tin roof.

Tuesday, May 30, 2006

Iced Coffee

I went to Jill and Steve's on Saturday and was introduced to the concept of iced coffee. Before you say, she JUST got introduced to iced coffee?? allow me to say that it was only last summer I learned to drink iced tea. Maybe next year I'll learn to turn on the Victrola, but the iced coffee is now my annual Memorial Day Thanksgiving turkey.

Sunday, Mom and I went to the cemetery to see Dad. I love it there. We got him up to date, not much news this visit, and discussed what to carve on the headstone when Mom hits the dusty highway. Doesn't sound like a lot of fun? Oh, it was. We visited mothers and fathers and grands, and thanked each and every one. Then we had brunch on a lovely restaurant patio, and had, what else? Iced coffee. L'Chaim!

Monday, I put in my garden. Gladiolas, Hollyhocks, Sweet Peas, Cosmos, White Eggplant and tiny White Pumpkins called Baby Boo. Then I talked to my Grandbaby, Boo Boo on the computer and waved and kissed and talked until I come to see him soon.

I had Iced coffee at every turn. A wonderful addition to a happy three days. I got the brainstorm to drink it this morning, too, with the newspaper.

My suggestion? Don't.

Monday, May 22, 2006

Fast Forward

I can't stand people forwarding me things as member of their list of people to forward things to. I don't like to be a part of mass anything. I usually don't even open forwarded messages and my friends know it. But somehow one from my friend MGS snuck through.

It is absolutely on the mark about what we're offering to each other here. We are interested, asking, wanting to know your story. And we know everyone, everyone has one to tell. Everyone, everyone deserves to be listened to.

I don't know who wrote this story. I'd love to give them credit. I'm copying it here. If it got to me, it might get to you.

THE CAB RIDE

Twenty years ago, I drove a cab for a living. When I arrived at 2:30 a.m., the building was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window. Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once or twice, wait a minute, then drive away.

But, I had seen too many impoverished people who depended on taxis as their only means of transportation. Unless a situation smelled of danger, I always went to the door. This passenger might be someone who needs my assistance, I reasoned to myself.

So I walked to the door and knocked. "Just a minute," answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.

After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 80's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940s movie.

By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.

There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

"Would you carry my bag out to the car?" she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman.

She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb She kept thanking me for my kindness.

"It's nothing," I told her. "I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated."

"Oh, you're such a good boy," she said.

When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, then asked, "Could you drive through downtown?"

"It's not the shortest way," I answered quickly.

"Oh, I don't mind," she said. "I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice."

I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening.

"I don't have any family left," she continued. "The doctor says I don't have very long."

I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. "What route would you like me to take?" I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator.

We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.

Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, "I'm tired let's go now."

We drove in silence to the address she had given me.

It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.

Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up.

They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.

I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door.

The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

"How much do I owe you?" she asked, reaching into her purse.

"Nothing," I said.

"You have to make a living," she answered.

"There are other passengers," I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.

"You gave an old woman a little moment of joy," she said.

"Thank you"

I squeezed her hand, then walked into the dim morning light.

Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.

I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk.

What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift?

What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life.

We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments.

But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY WHAT YOU DID, OR WHAT YOU SAID, BUT THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL!

Thursday, May 18, 2006

Baby Books

My daughter has requested her Baby Book, and I suppose it's time. She will be 31 in the next few weeks. I told her I guess I could send it to her. Probably be my birthday present, she said. Which it will be, part of, at least...I've been culling through that Baby Book for years, making birthday art for my baby, my 31 year old baby, who , as a child, filled in her own Baby Book when she thought I'd gone lax on the project.

Her Baby Book has been living in a trunk, a yellow trunk I bought at T j Maxx which turned out to have two other trunks inside it, living there along with my own Baby Book, and my mother's Baby Book in my grandmother's hand. Four generations of girl babies who grew into my family of women.

I'm sending it to her, of course -- Girl, you're a wooooooo-man, now -- but not before I go through it slowly, one more time. If I were still a drinkin' woman , I'd have me a glass of wine while doing so. But I'm not. Coke Zero.

Saturday, May 13, 2006

Sleeping with Papillons

I have been absent due to a Pepperidge Farm Chocolate Cake induced coma -- wonderful, kee-razy birthday week. And yesterday was my dog's birthday. She is five, yet doesn't look a day over 35. So , as you can see, big doin's.... My daughter sent me a pink tank top that says,"I Sleep With Dogs." Be sweet to your mothers everyone. Send them my love tomorrow. My mother and I went to get free makeovers at a department store yesterday. I ended up looking embalmed, and she said she looked like a 100 year old 'ho. We had lots of laughs, we always do. Bless your mothers, bless yourselves, bless the memories you make together.

Monday, May 08, 2006

If you know it...

I woke up smiling happy today, which does not happen everyday. I have many reasons --one is that my birthday is tomorrow. Send gifts. And I had a wonderful dream where I had long straight hair with a beautiful hank of lanky white on the side near the front. And I went to sleep last night, breathing in Clary Sage, Geranium and Orange aromatherapy. I have rational exuberance today. So I thought, since this does not always happen, and hoping its a harbinger of happiness to come, I thought I ought to clap my hands.

If you're happy and you know it clap your hands
If you're happy and you know it clap your hands
If you're happy and you know it
Then your smile will surely show it
If you're happy and you know it , clap your hands!

Showing my age with this old Brownie Scout song ?

Tomorrow I will be 106.

Friday, May 05, 2006

Fantastic Pneumatic

Small things, my friends. Small things tell the big things in such a more interesting way. I was in the bank car lane the other day . I put my transaction into a plastic capsule that disappears behind a hidden window and is whooshed to the teller in the car lane window, and I noticed again how much I love this.

When my daughter was an infant, here in this town, we did our banking -- well, she was in the carseat -- which was still in the front seat, Oh, my God. I was so distracted that, after my transaction had whooshed back to me, I drove off, taking the plastic capsule with me. I returned it as soon as I figured it out, but it always made me wonder if they had spares. Small dog comes with me sometimes, and even she likes the pneumatic tubes.

One of the last of the last straws in Los Angeles was what happened to banking. I used to have lunch with my friend, Leon, and then we'd go to the bank where I'd deposit my paycheck. You could talk to the teller and la di da. One Friday, we walked in and the teller windows are encased in bullet proof glass with a tiny slot at the bottom to squeeze the checks and the money through. Like a prisoner in solitary gets his breakfast.

And then Leon was murdered. Big last straw on the list.

The bank in Virginia City was a place where you could take your dog inside. It was a wooden building, downhill from D Street, a dusty, arid walk from my house and one book bookshop. I found a hundred dollar bill on the wooden steps leading down to the bank one day. I brought it inside and they knew exactly who it belonged to. The hundred bucks had dropped out of her bra.

Then back to the Midwest and the pneumatic tubes. I love their method of transport. Air.

Maybe remembering your life through banking never occured to you, but think about the days of passbooks. And think about Leon. He was a wonderful guy.